Dateing sites, you will end up digging a deeper hole for yourself when that lie is exposed, which is almost always inevitable. When caught in this situation, you end up hurting your partner anyway, and whatever you were trying to protect your partner from by lying to them will be even worse because of your deception. I recommend honestly communicating with your partner from the get-go. Pulling a James Bond. You should never snoop in your partner’s private things drawers, wallet, filing cabinet, or private records such as bank or credit card statements. Furthermore, nothing justifies snooping. No matter what you have a hunch about, snooping through your partner’s things should never be pursued to confirm or deny your hunch. Your partner’s possessions and personal records should be kept private unless he/she gives you permission to look at them. Dateing sites on your partner is one of the most blatant violations of your partner’s trust and will achieve nothing except having your partner never trust you to be alone near his/her things ever again. Designating yourself Magnum P.I. Another ill-advised way some women try to verify suspected dateing site by their partner is to take on the role of private investigator by attempting to catch their partner in the act of doing something. Whether this takes the form of searching for your partner’s car by driving by his/her house, work, or gym or it takes the form of following your partner in your car, this is something you should never do. Even if you have a convincing hunch that your partner is hiding something from you, stalking is the wrong way to address it.